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May 14, 2008: 10:45 am: adminGender Issues Hub

What is the most unforgettable moment of your life? Is pregnancy
one of the things you could not forget? Most people feel so, and
to keep it memorized they made some kind of scrapping book
photos of pregnancy. They just don’t want to spend their nine
months pregnancy time without taking photos.

Memorize everything through pictures or photos during pregnancy
time are really a wonderful moment. Once you deliver your baby,
your body will be going back to its normal size, and you will
miss your big belly. Therefore, make picture of yourself during
pregnancy is so exciting. You will be surprised that you have so
wonderful body when pregnant.

The easiest way is to start right from the beginning. Prepare
your camera, either manual or digital. Currently digital camera
is popular due of it practical used and really quick to develop.
Taking picture using digital camera will probably the easiest
way for you. Make sure your digital camera is not broken and can
be retrieved to the computer. That way you will have everything
complete in your computer.

Your pregnancy photos from the first trimester until you deliver
your baby will be kept organize in a scrapbook photos of your
pregnancy. You can put your picture chronological order thus you
can organize your photos perfectly. Put dates down. The date may
not seem urgent for you to write out because you may think that
you will easily remember what “month” your pregnancy was at in
the pictures. But the truth is you may not remember all, so
better to put dates down.

When you took picture, wear your chick maternity apparel. Not
just wearing baggy clothing and plus sized dresses. Women today
have a wide range of choices they can pick from when they want
to look and feel their best about their body and self-image.

Photo taken wearing maternity apparel will make you look
gorgeous. Maternity apparel is made to keep you comfortable and
sexy at the same time. That’s why you can wear that during your
photo session.

Maternity apparel has a wide range of styles and selections you
can choose from to feel great and looks beautiful. There are
maternity pants or maternity skirts, or you are headed to the
beach in maternity swim wear there is something for every need
you can think of. You will even find maternity lingerie for
keeping things spicy in your bedroom. Not only for photo
session, maternity apparel also used to the office, and other
formal place.

So, you are ready now for your photo session with your beautiful
maternity apparel. If your pregnant reach four of five months
old, it can be hard to determine which month they’re in on the
picture. That’s why you need to write the date. Or you could get
on the computer and type all the details out onto labels and put
that on the back of each picture. Also make a label for each
negative too. Good luck!

May 12, 2008: 5:11 pm: adminGender Issues Hub

If you want to get in shape, do your age in push-ups. Why do your age in push-ups? Well, it’s a good, tangible, precise goal to shoot for and it guarantees you’ll always get better with age.

Most important, this goal reinforces a key fact of physical reality for moms with young children… Your children will keep getting heavier as they age, making the physical care of them harder and harder on YOUR body. Having a fitness goal like “doing your age in push-ups” will keep you ahead of the challenge.

Ok, hopefully you’re on board with this so let’s go for it.

If you’ve never done push-ups before, it’s likely you may not be able to do even one full repetition. That’s OK. Push-ups use stabilizing muscles in a way that’s different from almost any other exercise. You need to condition these stabilizing muscles so you can move on to doing a full push-up. The best way to get you there is with a modification.

How to do a Modified Push-Up

A modified push-up gives your muscles a mechanical advantage until you get strong enough to push your full body weight. There are two primary ways to do this. Both are pictured at the begining of the post.

Modification One: On the ground you do push-ups from your knees instead of your toes.

Modification Two: Do a push-up leaning against a bench, wall or other elevation. The picture shows a StrollerFit class doing this modification from a ledge. (Click on the pic to really see the form)

Once you can do 15 back-to-back modified push-ups, you should be able to do one full push-up.

Full Push-Up Form:

Start in the modified form from the ground, but instead of pushing from your knees, raise them off the ground so only your hands and toes are touching the floor.

- Make sure your back is straight.

- Tighten your stomach

- Inhale and lower your body until your chest is just below your elbows (going lower than that can put unnecessary strain on your shoulders).

- Exhale as you push yourself back up and repeat.

- Get a good rythm. Don’t go too fast or too slow.

- If you still are unsure of how to do a proper push-up, contact a good personal trainer or find someone who was in the military to demonstrate- they’ll know for sure.

> Some people experience low back tightness as they do push-ups. If your back starts to hurt discontinue the exercise and try again in your next workout. Typically your low back muscles condition out of this as they get stronger stabalizing your torso during push-ups. Just don’t push them too hard at first. They’ll let you know when they’ve had enough for the day.

If you feel your back tightening while doing push-ups, it may be that your abs aren’t tight and your back is sagging or arching. Be especially vigilant to keep proper form as you do your last few and hardest reps. This is when most people tend to sag or arch their backs.

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Now that you’ve got the form here’s another tip…

Set incremental goals - set smaller age goals, like doing your baby’s age first, then your cat or dog, then one of the Olsen twins - you get the picture.

*If you are doing push-ups as part of a longer workout, be sure to do them first or at least do them before you start additional exercises for your chest, triceps or shoulders.

Your Basic Mommy Muscle Do Your Age In Push-Ups Plan (Takes 21 minutes or less a week, 7 minutes a workout)

First Set: Warm-up with 10 modified push-ups to get some heat and blood into your muscles. Rest one minute.

Second Set: Do as many push-ups as you can. Rest for two minutes

Third Set: Do as many push-ups as you can. If it’s at least half the number of your first set - congratulations, your workout is over. If you didn’t get there, rest 2 minutes and do one more set of as many as you can. (This technique will keep you making fast forward progress even if you’re having an off day)

*Note - your goal should be to do at least one more push-up on the second set of each workout. Try and do a little better than your last workout each time. Don’t be to hard on yourself if you don’t improve every workout. Fitness development can sometimes follow a one step back, two steps forward pattern. The key is a weekly upward trend.

Keep a piece of paper handy to record your progress and watch your numbers rise. By the way, these workouts should take you no more than seven minutes.

Do this workout 3 times a week on non-consecutive days and you’ll see rapid and steady impovement toward your incremental goals. If your consistent, you’ll be doing your age in push-ups before you know it.

Curt Conrad, CSCS, is Founder and President of StrollerFit Inc. an international product and franchise company that helps parents exercise with their babies. He is author of The StrollerFit ExerBook. His companies have helped thousands of clients enjoy better life through better fitness. http://www.strollerfit.com

April 17, 2008: 2:59 pm: adminGender Issues Hub

It’s always a challenge finding time to clean my house. Seems
the hours, days and weeks just fly by, so much to do, so little
time. Here are three ways to fit in your house cleaning.

1. Schedule it in. We all make appointments, whether it is for
ourselves or someone else. Before we set up an appointment we
check our schedules, making sure we find the best time. Why not
schedule a house cleaning appointment. Pick a time once a week
and make that a regular appointment, if we need to cancel be
sure to reschedule it for that week. I find that since I keep up
with cleaning once a week, it doesn’t take me as long and there
isn’t much dust.

2. One room a day. Instead of choosing one day a week to clean,
try cleaning one room a day. Our house won’t be clean at once,
but by the end of the week the whole house will be cleaned.
Monday comes and we are starting again. Sometimes when I’m
cooking and have something in the oven, I’ll do a quick wipe
down of all the counters. While the kids are in the tub, I wipe
down the bathroom and clean the toilet.

3. Hand off a room. If there are other people living in the
house and are old enough to take on responsibility, then hand
off a room. We can either have them choose or we can choose the
room for them. Let them help with the cleaning and I don’t think
asking for help with “one” room in the house is asking too much.
Once we have less rooms to clean, the easier it is to get the
rest of the house done.

April 4, 2008: 7:41 am: adminGender Issues Hub

Athletic women come in all sizes and enjoy different sports or fitness programs. Athletic women enjoy being toned and fit. Through personal fitness, many women have developed determination, commitment to their task, and an ability to hit the wall and go beyond. Often they consider themselves tough and rigorous. Women who enjoy fitness as a way of Life rather than being ‘athletic’ also admire their shape, sense of being in ‘tone’, flexibility and strength. So why would an athletic woman (including women who just stay fit) need to know anything about childbirth? Isn’t the goal of preparing for childbirth about ‘getting in shape?’

One famous woman athlete made a public comment that if she had gone through labour before her competitive event she would have done better in the competitions. Obviously, childbirth gave her insights that would have improved her performance. Many athletic women may not know that you are more likely to have a caesarean than most women. We’ve all heard stories that dancers and horsewomen are more likely to have a caesarean; however, it’s true for many athletic women. Yet, somehow this seems paradoxical. How can being in shape lead to more medically assisted births?

Childbirth at it’s simplest is an exercise in plumbing.

An object (baby) has to come out of a container (woman). In order to do that the object must come through a tube (pelvis), open a diaphragm (cervix) and aperture (vagina). The container has a Mind and if the process of the object coming through is perceived of as painful, then the Mind can respond to those sensations by tensing up the body. Tension in the body can interfere with the need of the container to relax and open in order for the object to come out. Being ‘toned’ is a form of tension. This means that there is entirely different preparation for giving birth than staying in shape or being in training. One husband of an athletic woman said after her caesarean: ‘I thought childbirth was about muscles pushing a baby out. Now I understand it’s about creating space so the baby can move through her body.’

Each sport or fitness program uses different muscles, yet it is not just the muscles that can produce tension. Connective tissue or fascia can hold tension as well. In our plumbing analogy, the tube (pelvis) is surrounded by connective tissue which is part of our body’s soft tissue. Soft tissue is anything other than bone. For example, tension in the connections between the bones in the pelvic girdle (tube) can prevent the bones from being mobile. Our baby’s bones in their head are designed to mold and over lap; however, we can create more space inside this tube when we know how to keep our pelvis mobile. In childbirth, the sacrum is the bone that needs the most mobility. It’s also the bone that is used to stabilize our bodies as we weight bear and tends to being immobile. We can also reduce ‘back labour’ by learning how to create sacral mobility. One ice skater said after 3 caesareans: ‘Once I learned to mobilize my sacrum in labour, I had no trouble giving birth to my fourth child naturally. No one told me I had to do that. No one told me I had to do the Internal Work (birth canal or aperture) either.

The soft tissue in our birth canal may also be quite tight. Many women are told to do ‘pelvic floor’ exercises. These certainly are good to strengthen our insides; however, they are not appropriate birth preparation exercises. Instead pregnant women need to learn how to relax inside the pelvis and the muscles of the birth canal.

For many athletic, relaxing is not in alignment with their personal self perception.

One competitive cyclist said: ‘I considered myself very, very tough and I was. I had developed skills and management skills for my chosen event; however, without a whole new set of skills for the event of giving birth I didn’t have a clue and ended up with a caesarean and sense of personal failure. When I discovered The Pink Kit Method for birthing better I learned the necessary birthing skills and my husband learned how to coach me.’

The Pelvic Clock exercise from The Pink Kit is one of the many you can teach yourself at home to prepare for childbirth. When used in labour, the Pelvic Clock technique helps you to focus on relaxing where your cervix attaches inside the pelvis. This assists in dilating the cervix. You can use the same concept to mentally relax around the cervix directly which also assists cervical dilation. NOTE: If you are pregnant now, you can do the Pelvic Clock exercise below, but only do the cervical relaxation the last two weeks of your pregnancy as specific preparation for birth and then feel free to do it throughout labour.

Do this exercise in a number of positions: standing, sitting, lying down or partially kneeling. As you know, different postures engage different muscles and aspects of the connective tissue.

1) Draw a line around your body, starting midway down your pubic bone, around to the top of where your legs meet your hips and then to your sacrum. This will be about 1 inches above where the little bumps are, at the beginning of your bottom crack. You have drawn a circle around your pelvis. Inside this circle, inside the pelvis is approximately where the top of your vagina (the soft tissue around the cervix) meets the inside of your pelvis. In labour the contractions draw this tissue into the pelvis, opening the cervix which is in the middle of the tissue. Where the tissue meets the pelvis is like the rim of a clock face and the cervix is like the area where the hands of the clock join. Uterine contractions open the cervix so that there is no longer a clock face, rather a large opening for your baby to come down and into your birth canal. The tugging open of the cervix is what is ‘painful’ in labour.

2) Give your clock face names. Name the pubic bone 12:00, one hip 3:00, the sacrum 6:00 and the other hip 9:00. Now go around the clock and soften (inside) at each o’clock (you can always include 1:30 etc). It’s helpful to say to yourself while you lightly touch that place: ‘Soften inside my pubic bone.’ Pause before you go on to the next place in order to let your mind find that place in your body and for your body to respond. This is yoking your mind to your body.

3) After you have gone around the outside of the Pelvic Clock and if you are two weeks away from your due date, then you can do the same softening around the cervix which is in closed and in the center. The cervix is made up of 50% muscle cells and the rest connective tissue, so it does respond to intentional relaxation.

4) Doing both of these things in labour between contractions and even during contractions has been one of the great focus tools that women who have prepared with The Pink Kit have used. It’s an ideal tool for husbands/partners to know. They can feel it in their own bodies and can remind us to ‘relax at 6:00′ if we have back labour, for example.

Notice this difference, just tense up inside, hold the tension while you go around the clock again. You can feel the difference.

Over the past 30 years, The Pink Kit Method for birthing better has helped many women athletes to have a positive birth. The information originated in the United States in the 1970s and came to New Zealand with the founder of the Trust, Common Knowledge, in 1995. Since then the multi-media kit The Pink Kit: Essential Preparations for your birthing body through the website.

A number of New Zealand athletic women have used The Pink Kit and found it incredibly helpful. They have been body builders, aerobic competitors, rowers, horsewomen, dancers etc. Each has a different experience and different story of their birth. Some found that their sport had prepared them for the challenge of labour while others were surprised at how challenged they were by labour.

Often athletic women have athletic partners.

When both expectant parents have prepared for birth using The Pink Kit, having a skilled partner as birth coach has been wonderful for the woman. Men do have the same bodies and can feel inner tension in the same manner than women can. When these women found labour challenging, they relied on their partners to help them work through each contractions with the common knowledge skills they had taught themselves. One woman athlete said: ‘when labour got intense, my husband reminded me that I had put in the effort to my sport and that I could do this. He inspired me to keep going instead of using pain relief and he was there every contraction, doing the work with me.’

With the new skills, you can find in The Pink Kit, athletic women and their partners can meet the challenge, achieving a positive birth experience in all situations. Learning new skills become fascinating rather than conflictive. In fact, you’ll get back into shape sooner after birth when you have learned to relax to give birth. There will be less trauma for you and your baby.

Winter Green - EzineArticles Expert Author

Wintergreen is trustee and founder of the Common Knowledge Trust based in Nelson, New Zealand. The trust promotes the Pink Kit Method which gives private childbirth lessons for use in ones own home. For more information visit the Birthing Better website.